Friday, January 19, 2007
surfing through my friends' blogs..
wow there's this feature that allows you to play songs from their blogs..
and so i've been blasting different christian songs the whole afternoon
songs like "yearn" "arise" "the answer" by shane and shane..
and i have to admit that they are very nice
the guitar and vocals are very soothing
perhaps its because its suppose to be songs of worship
that's why they sound very earnest and sincere..
without the sadness and angst of the love songs playing on radio this era
saw my isotope's blog..
top 10 reasons why ppl dun wanna get married:
1.Skepticism about love and marriage
2.Lack of faith in God's provision
3.Unresolved issues from the past
4.Confusion about the rules of dating/courtship
5.A poor understanding of the purpose of marriage
6.Fear of getting hurt
7.Wanting the perfect mate
8.Not dealing with prior heartbreak
9.An unbalanced emphasis on career
10.Concern that their marriage will fail
alright, skepticism.
blame the tv shows.
recently i realised that for every happy ending, there are simultaneously many sad endings.
most of the time, we are too caught up in the emotional turmoil of the main characters to be able to feel the agony and pain of the "other" people.
and while we feel happy that the "prince" and "princess" got the happy ending they deserve, how many of us have spared a thought for the sidekicks?
and though all of us are the main characters in our own stories,
how can we be sure that we'll play important roles in that of others?
what's love? what's marriage?
the definitions are so subjective.
and expectations are so varied.
i don't blame people for being skeptical.
unresolved issues from the past.
i guess all of us are escapist by nature. in one way or another.
no one likes to revisit the unhappy past, though it is necessary to.
confusion abt the rules of courtship.
life is already so complicated, why make it more complicated?
i guess in the end what counts is honesty.
and of course one cannot afford to do whatever one likes
always spare a thought for the other party
that's 'nuff i guess?
poor understanding of the purpose of getting married
it is an expression of committment.
there are some people who say that if you are committed, then you are committed.
there is no need for a legal procedure or a piece of cellulose to affirm anything.
but since you are so committed, then why are you scared that the cert will tie you down?
i guess marriage is like a milestone.
it brings the couple to a higher stage in their relationship.
its kind of an emotional turning point.
you know, turning points usually occur when something drastic happens and makes you change your view.
the marriage ceremony is something like that.
you can't just wake up one day and then have a turning point.
ramble ramble ramble.
i'm just in a restless mood.
its amazing how i've turned out the way i am
i cannot remember when my temper started to get better bit by bit.
guess its been a long way.. from breaking rackets in the past, to letting things go with a smile.
trying not to be so competitive.
not so demanding
not so impatient
be more sociable
and tolerant
and not care too much abt what other ppl think
the changes are so gradual. and i dun even realise it until i reflect and realise that "the baorong in the past would have done this and that, not like now".
i believe people grow and learn from past experiences
we have to learn to let some things go
forgive and forget.
some turning points take a bit of adjusting to
in this world,
the only constant is change.
