Tuesday, December 26, 2006
I like the way nicholas sparks can put into words the thoughts in my head..
Just finished reading his book, “At First Sight”..
“It takes two to tango. My guess is that both of you are right and both of you are wrong. That’s the way most arguments go. People are who they are and no one is perfect, but marriage is about becoming a team. You’re going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you picked the right person and you both love each other, you’ll always figure out a way to get through it.”
I know men. Let me tell you, they can be rip-roaring mad or frustrated or worried about work or life, but in the end, they’re pretty simple to figure out if you know what makes them tick. And one of the things that make them tick is an almost desperate need to feel appreciated and admired. You make them feel that way, and you’ll be amazed at what they’ll do for you.
--hey guys! And gals! Is that true? Hahah!
Of course, they want great sex and want you to keep the house clean and neat and organized while looking beautiful and still having the energy to do fun things together, but admiration and appreciation are right up there.
You’re not the only one who has to make a sacrifice when it comes to being a couple. You think you’re getting the short end of the stick? Men have to make sacrifices too. Correct me if i’m wrong, but you want Jeremy to hold your hand and snuggle while you watch a movie, you want him to share his feelings and listen, you want him to spend time with your daughter and earn enough not just to buy but renovate the house. Well, I’ll tell you straight up that no man says to himself as he’s walking down the aisle, Gee, I’m going to work hard and sacrifice so I can provide a good living for my family, and I’m going to spend hours with my kids even when I’m tired, all the while hugging and kissing and listening to my wife and telling her all my troubles, and meanwhile, I’m not going to expect a single thing.”
A man promises to do the things to keep you happy in the hopes that you, too, will do the things that keep him happy.
Men have certain needs, women have different needs; that’s the way it was hundreds of years ago, and that’s the way it’s going to be hundreds of years from now. If you both realize that, and you both work on meeting each other’s needs, you’ll have a good marriage. And part of that, for both of you, is trust. In the end, it’s that simple. As long as you remember that he loves you and you love him- and both of you remember to act that way- you’ll be just fine.
how i miss the days in turkey..
rolling plains of sunflowers.. nice weather.. carefree.. wake up to the company of friends and new exciting things to come.. basically just fun fun fun.. no irritating bugs to remember or stupid antibiotics..
i want another trip overseas with friends!!!!!!!!! lucky bx and ness la.. must be popping their eyes ogling at cute jap guys now lorhz haha.. LUCKY PIGS!
and just wanna thank jess, mich, hp and jamie for lending me their ears.. i miss all these girl outings.. miss the rg days when we trained together, went to orchard together, sat at the round tables at the back of the canteen and get scared by the fat pigeons.. hahaz..
guess the year end is a good time for reminscing the past.. many things have happened this year sia.. major events.. i can't believe that they all took place within the space of 1 year.. some things are not particularly pleasant.. but owells, without them there'll be no opportunity to grow and learn.. i just hope unhappy things will not repeat themselves.. once is enough haha..
and yups, also wanna say hi to ISOTOPE and SELENE! i miss yu guys so much! *hugs*
happy boxing day!!! :)
Saturday, December 09, 2006
is it courage or is it a sign of weakness to walk away?
i am wearing thin.
