Saturday, September 30, 2006
read something in today's Today..
goodness. this one really got to me.
This Sxxx Lxxxx xxxx is such a MCP.
To quote what he said in the forum section..
"The conventional wisdom on divorce is that it only happens after both husband and wife have tried their best to save their marriage. But i have my doubts. In more than 70% of the cases, it was the wife who filed for divorce. Why?
Women continue to work after their marriage and having children. This i believe, must be one of the main contributing factors for the high rate of divorce.
Women prefer to work after marriage because this provides financial independence. When things get tough after marriage, these women are not willing to ride it out with their husbands and are not afraid to call it quits as they know they can easily support themselves.
Another problem arises when women continue to work after marriage. Husbands, who are usually the breadwinners, expect to return home to warm home-cooked meals and a well-organized house. But if wives are also working, they feel stressed and complain about doing housework after their day at the office.
Men will begin to feel deprived of these things. Tensions and misunderstandings build up.
If women stop working after marriage, i believe it can help foster a better husband-wife relationship and thus reduce divorces.
Women should understand that if they can't stand the heat of working life, it's better for them to get back into the kitchen. "
OH MY GOD.
i can't believe i am reading this kind of thing in this century!
oh my god.
I am so ASTONISHED and PISSED!
wow.. he speaks as though he understands marriages and in particular, divorces, very well. I wonder why. Has he gone through many divorces too?
my goodness
the last sentence especially. if women can't stand the heat of working life, they shud get back into the kitchen. my goodness my goodness my goodness. oh my goodness. i am just dumbfounded. like utterly totally at a loss for words.
so he meant to say that it is women's sole duty to stay in the house and look after the house, or kitchen? and only if they are able to juggle that well are they allowed to go out to work? what is this man.
i think this person is one heck of an insecure man. he's so scared of his wife having financial stability. it absolutely disgusts me. didn't it occur to him that this financial security gives women the chance and courage to fight for equal treatment and to speak the truth?
and doesn't he think that it is an absolutely sad case if a woman stays in a marriage just because she doesn't have the financial ability to opt out?
isn't this using money to oppress people?
oh cummon man.
i think his thinking is fundamentally wrong.
the problem lies not with the woman working.
it lies with the value and sanctity of marriage in modern society.
of cos, money does play a role. but it is not one of the main contributing factors i feel.
if a woman is not willing to solve problems when they occur in a marriage, one wonders why that marriage existed in the first place. and one wonders what the marriage means to her. it is something that has gotta do with the values that our society has. not work!
and.
where is equality man?
so he wants only himself to have financial independence so that only he has the power to call the shots in the marriage?
perhaps
why most of the divorces are filed by women is because men tend to escape from reality using work as an excuse, whereas women, being the more emotional gender, tend to brood more and thus come to a conclusion for the problem?
what is the world coming to?
haha
anyway, thanks to all those who remembered my birthday.. esp u :)
