Monday, January 16, 2006
listening to group therapy on daniel ong's show now..
this woman has an affair at her workplace, and she has a nice sweet hubby at home.. what should she do?
and daniel ong raised an interesting question.
does having an affair mean you do not love your partner?
well.. is it possible to love 2 people at the same time? and i do not mean loving your father and mother at the same time.
is it possible to love 2 people for the different things they do and the different people they are?
if that is the case, then how is it possible to judge who you love more?
i think most affairs are matters of proximity. since people spend most of their times in the office, and of course, everyone wants to feel special, have that "special" someone to perhaps make themselves feel.. er.. wanted? popular? there goes, the perfect breeding ground for office affairs.
many affairs are sweet and thrilling by the very fact that they are affairs. secrets. the thought of these secret rendezvous is enough to make the adrenaline overflow, and when you successfully get over with it, you feel even better.
i think most people hop from relationship to relationship because they are always in search of the sweet, passionate, heart-skipping, over the moon feelings that overwhelm them when they are in the honey-moon stage of a relationship.. but as time progresses, there are things you begin to take for granted, and those intense feelings are not there anymore.. and you begin to think that things have gone stale.. but it is not..
i am beginning to understand a sentence i came across a long time ago.. it says something about.. at the beginning of a relationship, you feel obsession, when the passion burns and everything seems so perfect.. then it progresses to xxxxsomething i can't remember.. but somewhere along the line, it becomes companionship..
love can't be passionate all the time. love comes with acceptance. love comes from all the simple things you do everyday.. no one knows what is love..
do you believe in horoscopes? i kind of believe them, but i am not dependent of course.. it says that libras cannot live without love. take away their love, take away the meaning in their lives. i tend to agree.. there are many other things that they say.. but i can't remember them now.. but i can recall how surprised i was at how the horoscope reflected my personality.
what if you found out you have terminal cancer..
will you tell the person you love?
or will you run away from him,
perhaps give some reason to break his heart, make him forget about you and then you die off miserably in one corner?
or will you staY by his side, yet keep mum about your condition?
of all these solutions, i think running away is the most foolish of all. it is just utterly stupid to do these kind of things.. maybe i am just not noble enough to sacrifice myself and spare the person i love the agony.
what will you do?
