Sunday, June 19, 2005
i always enjoy reading "her say" or "his say" on cleo.. this week's "her say" column is really interesting..
Is it only about sex?
Has sex become the litmus test set by men? I think these men are just unwilling to put in further effort or tie until they get a 30-day shag guarantee. They enjoy your company but they enjoy it more when the time spent together includes bedtime. Think of it as friends with benefits. Basically it's a relationship on their terms and they're happy to hang around-- until you start wanting a real relationship.
The courtship rules of yore no longer apply. In an age of instant gratification, I've watched guys move on the moment you hesitate to grant entry. Romantic connections, sweet gestures, long chats and even simply getting well acquainted are all compressed within one sitting or totally dismissed. But guys, have you thought about what we women want? Give us more respect, take more effort and please go to seduction school school if you truly want to score.
Yep.. the topic pretty much sums it all up.. As we grow up, we hear about these kind of relationships.. or are they even fit to be called relationships? I feel so lucky and grateful that none of the guy friends i have now are this type.. I think that guys who only want sex are rubbish.. Really despise them. They're only fit to belong in the dumps. No relationship can be sustained on sex alone. Its the deep connection between the two.. the intimacy they feel even without sex.. the ease with which they behave around each other.. not having to think about what to say so that silences are not awkward.. Love and sex are 2 totally different things. nowadays all those instant-sex relationships are so superficial they make me shudder. What happened to relationships being a platform to discover your soulmate? I just hope that I will be so protected throughout my life.. and likewise for the rest of my female friends.. and that my guy pals will remain as great as they are.. and not see a woman as a fling or an object for sexual gratification. And of cos, vice versa, i hope no guys will fall prey to despicable who only want sex! I guess the safest bet now is to remain a virgin till you get married to make sure your partner married you for the right reasons!
"Marriage is a lottery in which men stake their liberty and women their happiness" -- Virginie de Rieux
"An archaeologist is the best husband a woman can get. The older she gets, the more interested he is in her." -- Agatha Christie
